Archive for April 7th, 2014
Worthy
‘Having value’ is a good definition of worthy. In ‘10 Telltale Signs of Low Self-Esteem’ (Spirituality & Health, November 2013) author Anneli Rufus shares habits indicative of low self-esteem. The habits outlined below show a self-loathing attitude; a personal unworthiness.
1. We’re indecisive. We believe we can’t possibly make a decision that will not have negative consequences.
2. We fake it. We hide behind masks, fearful of revealing our true selves.
3. We deflect praise. We actively deny praise; it can’t possibly be true (we are not worthy).
4. We’re hypervigilant. Words, body-language and gestures become a powerful body of evidence that we are unlikable failures.
5. We have great difficulty inhabiting the present moment. Regret and fear, favorite ploys of the Chatterbox, keep us roaming between the past and the future.
6. We give up easily. We give in. We assume the attitude that we are always wrong.
7. We plead. Our lack of selfworth “…turn even the simplest requests into desperate, self-abasing pleas.”
8. We aim low. Confident in our probability of failing, we keep the bar low.
9. We are chronic comparers. This habit reinforces our self-loathing.
10. We puncture our own fun. “Believing we deserve no happiness, we flood with dread at the first spark of joy….”
Ms. Rufus maintains that the first step toward changing these negatives to positives is compassion.
The Original Angel Cards Book states that ‘Compassion’ is a “Heartfelt understanding of the human condition that encompasses the pain in oneself and others, dissolves judgment, and opens the way for acceptance. Sincere desire to alleviate suffering.”
Strive to alleviate your suffering and open yourself to acceptance. You are worthy.