The Four Agreements II
The second agreement in the Toltec Wisdom book, The Four Agreements, is “Don’t Take Anything Personally”.
The human majority beleive that other people or situations can make us respond in certain ways. For example, ‘My boss made me so angry.’ or ‘My friend really hurt my feelings.’ We re-act from a place of conditioning. Anger is a choice, albeit also a conditioned response. As Don Miguel states, the comments and behaviors of others which ‘hurt’ us, hurt us because these things touch personal wounds that we carry.
To not take things personally is very challenging work. Yet, when we establish the habit of non-reaction to the feedback of others, both positive and negative, we find our true center, our true self-esteem.