Insights – Melannie Thomas

Archive for the ‘Intuitive Guidance’ Category

The unexpected happens to everyone, and it happens often.  It can be experienced individually or collectively.  A brief power outage or a debilitating prolonged one, like Puerto Rico is still experiencing almost a year after Hurricane Maria.

Traumatic events, personal and collective leave us struggling to find balance, to cope with loss, grief and often disbelief.  Every day as I drive through the savagely scarred landscape of the unprecedented North Bay wildfires, I still experience disbelief.  As with Puerto Rico, and countless other places throughout history and around the world, so much of the familiar is gone…and it will never be the same.

“No one is so brave that he is not disturbed by something unexpected.”  ~Julius Caesar

“There are uses to adversity, and they don’t reveal themselves until tested.  Whether it’s serious illness, financial hardship, or the simple constraint of parents who speak limited English, difficulty can tap unexpected strengths.”  ~Sonia Sotomayor

The will to survive, to overcome, to move forward is compelling.  The ‘Sonoma Strong’ movement in my community remains active; driven by a shared experience, and a fervent desire to forge ahead.

“You have to take risks.  We will only understand the miracle of life fully when we allow the unexpected to happen.”  ~Paulo Coelho

The unexpected seldom appears as major events, such as those referenced above.  The mundane every day routine is sprinkled generously with unexpected moments.  The traffic jam that makes you late for work; the carrots essential to a dish you are making are mysteriously gone; the air conditioner stops working on a really hot day; the garbage disposal is suddenly leaking water everywhere; the dryer stops working, leaving a load of wet clothes to deal with; the party you were so excited about attending is cancelled at the last minute…the list is never ending.

“The shortest period of time lies between the minute you put money away for a rainy day and the unexpected arrival of rain.”  ~Jane Bryant Quinn

The will to overcome the unexpected is a strong characteristic of human beings.

“Spirituality can release blocks, lead you to ideas, and make your life artful.  Sometimes when we pray for guidance, we’re guided in unexpected directions.  We may want a lofty answer and we get the intuition to clean our bedroom.  It can seem so humble and picky that you don’t necessarily think of it as spiritual guidance.”  ~Julia Cameron

The profound and the mundane are intimate companions on our journey through the world of the unexpected.

Blessings!

To be flexible is the ability to bend in a multitude of ways, physically, emotionally, financially, politically, romantically, spiritually and more.

“The ability to course correct without losing sight of the goal.  Let go of narrow-mindedness, stay open to the flow, and keep current with new information.”  ~Angel Card, Tyler & Drake

A culture, society, organization or community cannot survive or thrive without flexibility, nor can the individuals that comprise them.

“You have tremendous flexibility in defining both the greater good and the greater community.  If you don’t succeed in this, then you will continue to pull that heavy wagon up the mountain, and despite the fact that you are pulling it, it will somehow run over your own foot.”  ~Srikumar Roa

Many structures that appear to be rigid have a degree of flexibility built into them: cars, buildings, banking systems, tennis rackets for example.   So too, our thinking and decision-making processes.

“Despite my firm convictions. I have always been a man who tries to face facts, and to accept the reality of life as new experience and new knowledge unfolds.  I have always kept an open mind, a flexibility that must go hand in hand with every form of the intelligent search for truth.”  ~Malcolm X

It is our willingness to be flexible, to not only listen, but to ‘hear’ the discourse of those with whom we differ.  This quality makes a substantial and essential contribution to our physical, emotional and spiritual healthy maturation.

“If you think the aficionados of a living Constitution want to bring you flexibility, think again.  You think the death penalty is a good idea?  Persuade your fellow citizens to adopt it.  You want a right to abortion?  Persuade your fellow citizens and enact it.  That’s flexibility.”  ~Antonin Scalia

“Freedom always deals with ‘the possible’; this gives freedom its great flexibility, its fascination, and its dangers.”  ~Rollo May

I invite you this week to examine the depth and breadth of your flexibility.

Blessings!

“…shelter or protection from danger or stress; a place that provides shelter or protection.”  ~Merriam Webster

There are basic forms of refuge.  Being physically free of persecution and bodily harm, being free of emotional abuse in its myriad forms, these are refuges we most often seek.  Yet the least sought after and most powerful  is spiritual refuge.

“The wise man in the storm prays God, not for safety from danger, but for deliverance from fear.  It is the storm within which endangers him, not the storm without.”  ~Ralph Waldo Emerson

Spiritual refuge is the ultimate refuge.  Seeking safety, protection, comfort and shelter in the Divine Spirit of Love is compelling and effective.  To achieve this serenity demands discipline and faith.

“In a world full of fear, be courageous.  In a world full of lies, be honest.  In a world where few care, be compassionate.  In a world full of phonies, be yourself.  Because the world sees you.  The world hopes for you.  The world is inspired by you.  The world can be better because of you.”  ~Doe Zantamata

“Be your own lamp, seek no other refuge but yourself, Let truth be your light.”  ~Buddha

The world as we know it is changing rapidly and dramatically.  The dark forces are rising.  The light of fairness, justice, compassion, truth and morality grows dimmer each day.  But it will never be extinguished, because there are those who cherish it, secure it and nurture it, in all good faith, knowing that ultimately the Divine Light of Truth and Love will prevail.

“God is our refuge and strength, a very present help in trouble.” ~Ps 46:1

As a nation we just celebrated our Independence Day.  I invite you to continue to carry the torch of spiritual refuge.  Be the shining light, the glimmer of hope that refuses to go out.

“He who dwells in the shelter of the Most High will abide in the shadow of the Almighty…my refuge and my fortress…in whom I trust.”  ~Ps 91: 1-2

Hot days, cool, lovely evenings; Wednesday we celebrate Independence Day, summer is in full swing.

“There is nothing I like better at the end of a hot summer’s day than taking a short walk around the garden.  You can smell the heat coming up from the earth to meet the cooler night air.”  ~Peter Mayle

The smell of crisp mornings and warm evenings, active bird life and buzzing bees, seasonal fruit, corn on the cob, BBQ’s are among the many pleasures that summer brings.  I love the warmth, although as I have aged, the heat is more challenging.

“Ah, summer, what power you have to make us suffer and like it.”  ~Russell Baker

Each season is unique. Gardens are rich and vibrant as Spring matures into Summer and the cadence is slower.

“Rest is not idleness, and to lie sometimes on the grass under trees on a summer’s day, listening to the murmur of the water, or watching the clouds float across the sky, is by no means a waste of time.”  ~John Lubbock

Enjoy your summer!!

To be pragmatic is to be concerned with the practical consequences of our beliefs and our actions.

Pragmatism means looking at ourselves, our behaviors and our ideas to see if they are working in constructive rather than destructive ways.

The only constant is change, and as the world around us keeps changing, it is incumbent upon us to employ flexibility, reason and spiritual integrity to effect positive change.

“What you pay attention to grows.  If your attention is attracted to negative situations and emotions, then they will grow in you.”  ~Deepak Chopra

Pragmatism is accepting reality and making the best of it.  It is figuring how to employ our integrity; our power in the world.  It’s spending our energy for positive change, effecting relationships and using our power to create a better world.

“Greatness is not manifested by unlimited pragmatism, which places such high premium on the end justifying the means and any methods.”  ~Margaret Chase Smith

“For all of its well-deserved reputation for pragmatism, American popular culture frequently nurtures or at least tolerates preposterous views and theories.  Witness the 9/11 ‘truthers’, who lacking any evidence, claim that 9/11 was a Bush administration plot.”  ~Michael Hayden

Tolerance for ambiguity is essential to  human survival, tolerance for totalitarian propaganda is a death sentence for the common man and a flourishing democracy.

“Idealism detached from action is just a dream.  But idealism allied with pragmatism, with rolling up your sleeves and making the world bend a bit is very exciting. It’s very real. It’s very strong.”   ~Bono

Wishing you all a wonderful summer!

“Please” and “Thank you” such simple, easy words to use.  Polite, courteous words, that are seemingly used less these days.

Courtesy can be such a balm of connection and pleasure even in the most difficult of social and intimate discourse.  It is freely available.  It has great power.  Yet, it often appears starkly absent in the thrust of dogmatic opinion.

“If we accept being talked to any kind of way, then we are telling ourselves we are not quite worth the best.  And if we have the effrontery to talk to anybody with less than courtesy, we tell ourselves and the world we are not very intelligent.”  ~Maya Angelou

It is one matter to be taught and to learn courteous behaviors, it is quite another to integrate them into the art of daily living.  However, it is a very worthwhile endeavor as courteous behaviors engender unbiased respect, tolerance for ambiguity, peaceful discourse and greater appreciation and gratitude for diversity.

“Courtesy is a silver lining around the dark clouds of civilization, it is the best part of refinement and in many ways, an art of heroic beauty in the vast gallery of man’s cruelty and baseness.”  ~Bryant H. McGill

My gracious ‘thank you’ to all of you for your ongoing support, today and everyday.

“Courtesies of a small and trivial character are the ones which strike deepest in the grateful and appreciating heart.”  ~Henry Clay

I am grateful!

Blessings to all for a week full of simple and tender courtesies.

Ah, Graduations, rites of passage.  Pomp and Circumstance, thoughtful, inspiring speeches, proud Graduates, prouder parents and family; a joyous, noisy celebration with somber overtones.

Watching my great granddaughter graduate from high school, was a moving experience for me.  I found myself looking back and looking forward at the same time. A pivotal moment.  The world I am leaving behind, the world I am moving into… on so many levels.  I wondered when the day comes for the class of 2018 to sit where I am sitting now, what they will be feeling,

“A real education is the architecture of the soul.”  ~William Bennett

“Being considerate of others will take your children further in life than any college degree.”  ~Marian Wurst Edelman

“It makes little difference how many university courses or degrees a person may own.  If he cannot use words to move an idea from one point to another his education is incomplete.”  ~Norman Cousins

“In this outward and physical ceremony we attest once again to the inner and spiritual strength of our Nation.  As my high school teacher, Miss Julia Colemen, used to say: ‘We must adjust to changing times and still hold to unchanging principles.'”  ~Jimmy Carter

Wishing the pursuit of authentic expression, passion for life and profound inner peace to all 2018 Graduates everywhere!

Uncertainty is defined as something that is unknown, unsure or in doubt.  What can we say that is actually certain, beyond a doubt?  How then do we live in and with this uncertainty?

“There is nothing so uncertain as a sure thing.”  ~Scotty Bowman

“That man is prudent who neither hopes nor fears anything from the uncertain events of the future.”  ~Anatole France

“To be hopeful means to be uncertain about the future, to be tender toward possibilities, to be dedicated to change all the way down to the bottom of your heart.” ~Rebecca Solnit

“The more ambivalent you are and the more uncertain you are, then you can get something that you cannot anticipate.” ~Elia Kazan

“I spent a lot of years trying to outrun or outsmart vulnerability by making things certain and definite, black and white, good and bad. My inability to lean into the discomfort of vulnerability limited the fullness of those important experiences that are wrought with uncertainty: Love, belonging, trust, joy, and creativity to name a few.” ~Brene Brown

“The only thing that makes life possible is permanent, intolerable uncertainty;  not knowing what comes next.” ~Ursula Le Guin

“..and you get to be at home with change.  You get to be at home with uncertainty.  You get to be at home with not knowing how it comes out.  And you make a plan knowing full well that it may be totally irrelevant a moment later, and you’re at peace with that.” ~Ram Dass

I’m feeling the acceleration of time.  How could it be the end of May already?   Memorial Day weekend is here!

Many of us venture into Nature, plan events with family and friends, take a break from increasingly hectic routines, and most importantly, set aside some time to honor our military; active, retired and those who made the ultimate sacrifice for country and freedom.

This Memorial Day feels extra special to me.  As the world moves steadily toward darkness and decay.  The gap between the haves and the have-nots seems to be growing by leaps and bounds globally, and the very bastions of freedom throughout the world are being shaken to their foundations.  On this Memorial Day the service and sacrifice of our noble military forces seems even more poignant and powerful.

I invite you to take a few moments today to celebrate this special Holiday.

Blessings!

“…minute or minor detail.”  It is a tricky balancing act to keep one’s focus on the big picture and tend to detail at the same time.

‘Not seeing the forest for the trees’ is a saying that reflects how easy it is to get lost in the minutia.

Betrand Malinowski coined the phrase, ‘…the imponderabilia of daily living.’  It is one of my favorite descriptions of the minutia of day-to-day life.

“Knowledge of the self is the mother of all knowledge.  So it is incumbent on me to know my self, to know it completely, to know its minutia, its characteristics, its subtleties, and its very atoms.”  ~Khalil Gibran

I am not certain that we can completely know ourselves.  But I do believe that the more I know my self the greater is my authenticity, freedom from worry and inner peace.

This quote from Deepak Chopra really got my attention.

“A risk-free life is far from being a healthy life.  To begin with, the very word ‘risk’ implies worry, and people who worry about every bite of food, sip of water, the air they breathe, the gym sessions they have missed, and the minutia of vitamin doses are not sending positive signals to their cells.  A stressful day sends constant negative messaging to the feedback loop and popping a vitamin pill or choosing wheat bread instead of white bread does close to zero to change that.”

Chopra’s use of food, water, air, vitamins and exercise exemplifies getting lost in the minutia of managing our health, our stress.  These elements are essential for our physical survival, literally.

To have a healthy life demands cultivating a belief system that enriches our faith and promotes our capacity to trust the process.  We need them both.

Surrendering ourselves to the care of the Divine Energy of Love is taking a profound risk.

This week I ask, ‘Are you a risk-taker?’