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An equinox marks a time of equal hours of light and dark in a day.  There are two per sun-calendar year.  Today is the Vernal or Spring Equinox.

To the ancients these cosmic cycles were of great importance.  The remains of great stone monoliths throughout the world  are testimony to the powerful significance of marking the four solar seasons.  Stonehenge in Europe and Chaco Canyon in the U.S. are good examples among many.  ‘Civilized man’ is seemingly not as dependent on these solar events to signal or initiate actions of planting and harvesting, of preparation for summer and winter.

Yet the precise patterns quartering the solar year gave rise to celebrations and rituals proper to each season; bringing tribes, clans, communities and families together at regular intervals and connecting them to the rhythms of their worlds, physically and spiritually.  Traditions that continue today in various forms the world over.

For me the Equinox marks the beginning of the Spring Holy Season; a time of renewal both physical and spiritual.  Wishing each of you the joy and beauty of this Sacred Season.


I have it…UGH!  Catch up with you all next week.  Enjoy the rain.


My current ‘dream cycle’ is a very active one.  Mulling over a dream fragment from last night and, sychronistically beginning some prep work for a Dream Workshop coming up in April, gave me the inspiration for this word of the week.

Dream is both a noun and a verb.  Dream research demonstrates that everyone dreams.   Dreaming from a literal perspective is a valuable tool for understanding ourselves.  But there is more beyond the dream experience occurring in our sleep.  As applied to a dream job, partner, home or vacation, it means having (or hoping for) the ‘ideal’.

We also day-dream.  Spend time in a reverie or fantasy; we can also dream-up stories, profitably or not.  To dream is also to ‘imagine’.  I believe that day-dreaming combined with active imagination can spark ideas that can become reality.  A new profession, hobby, place to live, an invention, a recipe, a book topic, music, lyrics, and more can originate from this process.  But so like our sleeping dreams, we most often forget these inspired moments as quickly as we forget last night’s dream.

This week I invite you to a fresh look at your dream world…inside and out.




All humans want to know ‘why’?  Why this, why that, why me.  Beyond  social-economic, natural, and scientific realms is the why me.  Why am I here?  Why is this happening to me?

I believe everyone experiences and feels this question at some point in their lives.  We all want to have purpose, to live a life that matters in some way however small.  We have dreams, goals, plans and ideas about where we will go and what we will do…and then life happens.  Sometimes life happens in an awesome and sychronistic way and sometimes it comes as an unexpected thief, stealing our dreams, our loved ones, our homes, our health.  “Why” is our bewildered response.

It is these profound moments that create the opportunity to learn acceptance, adaptability, forgiveness and faith.  Sounds simple and even trite.  But to plunge (or be plunged) into the depths of our psycho-spiritual soul is more often than not a traumatic event.  It is working through the ensuing anguish, working through the why, that becomes an integral part of our journey to wholeness.


I recently overheard a familiar comment…’it’s not about the destination, it’s all about the journey.’  This brought to mind another saying about the ‘journey of a thousand miles beginning with the first step.’  My mind invited these concepts into play.  Soon I was riding the ferris wheel of my probing interest.  Going slowly round and round, stopping at the top; swinging gently.  Then down again, stopping to pick up some different perspectives.

Of course I checked the old Webster, journey has origins in ME, OFr. and L.  What intrigued me the most was the L. root, diurnus which means ‘daily’.  And also, that journey was a days travel.  This made a great deal of sense to me as I reflected on the above adages.  A days travel prior to the industrial revolution was an arduous undertaking, especially before the horse and buggy.  On foot, or on a donkey, horse, camel or elephant a day’s  journey would often have been demanding, exhausting and dangerous.

More mind musings spotlighted the ‘daily’ journey, with its ups and downs, highs and lows, flotsam and jetsam and provided a profound insight into the speed at which we now ‘travel’ in a day even when we don’t leave home.  This is not a new experience for the majority of us.  However, I wonder if you, like me, get so caught up in the swiftness of the journey that we often miss details; the Hawk on telephone wire, the color of the sky, the smell of the season, a stranger’s smile.

The above sayings now have more depth and meaning for me.  I am inspired to stop for a moment here and there; to catch my breath, to watch a Hummingbird, to play with a child, say ‘Hello’ to a neighbor, and to rest now and then.


Tomorrow is Valentine’s Day.  It is a day that is often difficult for singles who have nothing going on romantically.  It is a day filled with flowers, chocolates, champagne, special meals, clothes, gifts, including jewelry, and greeting cards gushing and blushing expressions of love.

For those of you celebrating with that special someone in you life, I wish you a beautiful day!  And for those of you who are alone, I invite you to be your valentine.  It has been for me, a very enjoyable and rewarding experience to buy myself some of my favorite flowers, a bottle of my favorite champagne and to either get special take-out or prepare a special meal for myself.  Set the table, put on some great music, light a candle or two (or more) and savor some really good moments alone.

Wishing each of you a very Happy Valentine’s Day!!


The root of the word ‘option’ is from L. optare, to wish or desire.  My old and new Websters both define option as “…the power to choose”.

We easily take for granted our many routine ‘options’. How we spend our money, who we hang out with, where we live, what we do with our ‘free’ time, what we eat, how we dress, who we vote for, what spiritual path we follow, these are options in the true sense of fulfilling our desires or wishes.  Having the right and the freedom to choose is an enormous power.

There are often times in our lives when we feel we have no choice, no options.  We feel trapped.  Trapped in a job, a marriage, a relationship, an addiction, a dynamic, even a physical limitation.  We can’t imagine that we have any other ‘option’ but to keep things as they are.  Very often it is fear that keeps us bound to circumstances we don’t really desire.  Fear of the unknown, fear of what others may think of us, peer pressure, social mores, religious beliefs, all these are influences that can mask the fact that we have options.

Facing how much free will and choice we actually have is a scary proposition.  For example, acknowledging that we are not, in fact, trapped in a bad relationship, that we have no obligation to remain a victim of circumstance, means making a conscious decision to stay or to go.  We come face to face with our fears. Regardless of what others may say or do, the decision is ours. We are responsible.

It is a good thing to have options whether we exercise them or not.  Consciously acknowledging to ourselves our power of choice, the full potency of our free will, the real scope of the options before us is not only empowering but frees us from many traps.



My 1951 Websters ( unabridged addition) states that the origin of budget means a bag or a pouch.  My Merriam-Webster (11th addition) calls bouge, a leather bag.

Of the various definitions from both above-mentioned resources, I chose the following: a ‘Plan of affairs’ and ‘…an amount available for a particular use’.  Additionally, I added ‘energy budget’ to create a working definition to help guide me through some upcoming stellar events; a family wedding; a family re-union; and a few family mile-stone birthdays.

I fantasized briefly about having more than adequate monies, time and energy available so I could just sail through all these events with a kind of joyful abandon.  Then BOOM, reality blows my fantasy away.  I need a budget.  Relishing having unlimited funds to spend on travel, dress, decorations, gifts, catering, hired help and various other accoutrement evaporated into thin air.  The full scope of the challenge before me began to take root in my psyche, my body and my purse.  How many ways can I stretch a couple thousand dollars to do a ten-thousand dollar job?

I will have a budget.  I will comparison shop; I will invite good planing; I will accept my limitations; I will invite team-work; I will have a plan of affairs; I will allocate time, energy and funds befitting each event; and I will pace myself to the best of my ability.  Most importantly, I will focus with joyful abandon on how rich I truly am!


When beginning a new year, a new cycle, passion is activated, engaged.  We are energized and enthusiastic.  Stepping beyond the passion that fuels our intimate relationships and looking deeply within for the passions that feed our souls, what do we find?

For some the answer is evident in active ongoing involvement with creative expression, athletic activity, causes, and, commitments to desires of the heart that bring deep satisfaction.  For others the road is less clear.

I believe there are some key components to passionate expression of the soul.  Essential to successfully living your passion  are belief or faith, trust, commitment, desire, confidence, willingness including the willingness to be wrong, to lose, to stand up to ridicule, to step out of your comfort zone, to try new things, to accept criticism as well as accolades, to work with others or to work alone, to grow mentally, emotionally and spiritually.

As we enter 2012 and the labor pains birthing a new age become  more powerful and more intense the necessity is greater than ever for each of us to find and to persue our passions.



Our thought processes come with the development of language.  The English language, in particular, is not static; it continues to grow, to change, to develop.  ‘Words of the Year’ reflect major themes, conditions, roles, and changes in our society at large over a given period.  Occupy, chosen the Word of the Year for 2011 by the American Dialect Society, is a good example of this process.  Pragmatic is the Word of the Year for 2011 chosen by the folks at Merriam-Webster.

Whatever your thoughts and feelings are about the Occupy Movement, it is a historical event of global proportions. The Merriam-Webster definition of occupy is  “…to engage the attention or energies of….”  To be pragmatic is to “…be down-to-earth, realistic….”

On a personal note as we begin 2012, I invite you to bring occupy pragmatically into your daily activity.  Find a cause, a circumstance, a situation wherein you can engage the attention or energy of yourself and create a down-to-earth, realistic goal for personal change in your life.


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