Insights – Melannie Thomas

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Is your love unconditional?  Do you give others unconditional support?  Are you capable of unconditional surrender?  Not necessarily easy questions to answer.

Think about the adult child that you may be financially supporting for whatever reason.  What, if anything, do you expect in return?

A spouse or love partner whose behavior and attitude often grates on your nerves.  Do you love them unconditionally regardless?

In your spiritual belief system, is the love in your heart and mind unconditional?

Unconditional love is not co-dependent, needy or lacking in self-respect.  Healthy, loving relationships require boundaries, respect, tolerance for ambiguity and forgiveness.

“Unconditional love really exists in each of us.  It is part of our deep inner being.  It is not so much an active emotion as a state of being.  It’s not ‘I love you’ for this or that reason, not ‘I love you if you love me.’  It’s love for no reason, love without object.”  ~Ram Dass

“Never give up, which is the lesson I learned from boxing.  As soon as you learn to never give up, you have to learn the power and wisdom of unconditional surrender, and that one does not cancel the other; they just exist as contradictions.  The wisdom of it comes as you get older.” ~Kris Kristofferson

“I refuse to accept the view that mankind is so tragically bound to the starless midnight of racism and war that the bright daybreak of peace and brotherhood can never become a reality… I believe that unarmed truth and unconditional love will have the last word.”  ~Martin Luther King Jr.

To endure is to last, to persist; endurance is the ability to withstand hardship and/or stress, it is fortitude.

Marathon anything demands endurance to be successful.  We get to the other side of personal and collective hardships by enduring.
Assaults on our health and ensuing treatment, for example chemo-therapy, require endurance.  Surviving the grind of daily living is an act of persistence.

“Not in achievement, but in endurance, of the human soul, does it show its divine grandeur and its alliance with the divine.”  ~ Edwin Hubbel Chapin

“The limits of tyrants are prescribed by the endurance of those whom they oppress.”  ~ Frederick Douglas

“Small change, small wonders – these are the currency of my endurance and ultimately my life.” ~ Barbara Kingsolver

This week I invite you to acknowledge and celebrate your ability to endure.

Life is full of puzzles, big and little.  Some are in our environment and others in our spirit and psyche.

All of us are multiple puzzle solvers.  Watching an electrician solve a partial power outage at my home was such a welcome example of the process…and it is a process, not an event.

What is my work?  What is my purpose?  What is my destiny?  What is the purpose of life?  We each work to find answers to these stirring questions.

“People who work crossword puzzles know that if they stop making progress, they should put the puzzle down for a while.”

~Marilyn vos Savant

“There are no extra pieces in the universe.  Everyone is here because he or she has a place to fill, and every piece must fit itself into the big jigsaw puzzle.”

~Deepak Chopra

Betting you are a great puzzle solver.

Do you glow?  Do you see others glow?

Collectively, we speak of glowing health, glowing smiles, radiant glow, glimmers of thought, glowing embers, nature’s glow, glowing sunsets and and the glow of the moon.

There is a light within each of us; the light of our spirit.  When our spirit light is glowing strong, it is seen and felt by others.  Conversely, when the spirit light is dim and barely visible, that too, is noticeable.

We understand the fundamentals required for glowing health.  And when we apply them consistently, we reap the reward.

In this frenetic age it feels far more difficult to maintain the fundamentals of spiritual health. spiritual glowing.

Daily physical exercise contributes to our overall health and vitality.  Daily spiritual practice does the same.

I invite you to appreciate your daily spiritual practice, and ramp up your spirit glow.  The world needs your light!

Thomas Jefferson wrote. “The glow of one warm thought is to me worth more than money.”

In my area we are in the throes of an extended heat wave.  It is as prudent to prepare for heat as it is for extreme cold.  Following are some tips and guidelines for managing the next several days.

Be aware.  Note the hottest days, and the hottest part of the day.  Make plans accordingly.

Prepare for power outages and brown outs.  If you lose your air conditioning or you don’t have air conditioning, go to the mall, a movie, the library, the beach and/or a favorite swimming hole.  If you are staying home, take a cool showers or baths.

Check on elderly relatives and neighbors.  The elderly, the sick and small children are most vulnerable to the effects hot weather.

Make sure you are using sun screen on yourself and your children.  Wear hats, loose fitting, light colored clothing.

DON’T leave children and pets in enclosed vehicles!

Eat several small, light meals and stay HYDRATED.  Avoid caffeine and alcohol.

Make sure your garden is well watered.  Deep watering is more effective the frequent surface spraying.  And don’t forget your houseplants, air conditioning can dry them out quickly.

Slow down. Acquaint yourself with heat-related emergencies.

The gifts of really hot weather are the cool mornings and warm evenings.  Enjoy them by taking care of yourself throughout the hottest parts of the day.

I invite you to be ‘heat-smart’ this coming week as you celebrate the Summer Solstice.

Always a very special day for me.  Like Veteran’s Day, it is a time to honor our Nation’s fallen heroes.

There are several events locally and around the Nation in which we can participate.   However you choose to spend this kick-off-to-summer weekend, take a few moments to honor our fellow Americans.

Stay safe!!

We all know someone who exudes gentleness in their words, actions and demeanor.  I admire them.

Today I share some quotations about gentleness that reflects the energy of this part of human being.

“Of course, when I say that human nature is gentleness, is not 100 percent so.  Every human being has that nature, but there are many people acting against their nature, being false.”  Dalai Lama

“Only the weak are cruel.  Gentleness can only be expected from the strong.”  Leo Buscaglia

“That inner voice has both gentleness and clarity.  So to get to authenticity, you really keep going down to the bone, to the honesty, and the inevitability of something.”  Meredith Monk

“Nothing is so strong as gentleness.  Nothing is so gentle as real strength.”  Ralph W. Sockman

Wishing you all a blessed week!

May was named for the Greek Goddess of fertility, Maia.  The last of the months of Spring, May blossoms full of beauty.  The promise of the Maiden blushes full of fecundity.

Wholly wakened from Winter’s sleep, Gaia buzzes and hums with activity.  Beltane, Cinco de Mayo, National Teacher’s Day, Mother’s Day, and Memorial Day top a large list of May celebrations.  Add the Indy 500 and the Kentucky Derby and there is something for everyone.

In the Northern Hemisphere the Sun strides toward the Summer Solstice.  And after a record setting winter of much needed rain, the Sun feels wonderful!

May is time for putting plans into action; planting in the garden of life; a time of hope and renewal.

Time to plant a beautiful, lush garden.

Attitude is everything!  A positive outlook on life makes living it easier.

A recently published Finnish study on the effects of a pessimistic attitude on heart health and mortality puts punch in the argument for maintaining a positive mindset.  (BMC Public Health). Researchers noted that participants with high levels of pessimism were more than twice as likely to die of heart disease than those with a more positive attitude.

A long term study on the association between a positive outlook and longevity (American Journal of Epidemiology) was conducted with a 70,000 women with an average age of 70.  Following them over a period of 6 years, researchers noted that those with high levels of optimism were 29% more likely to outlive those with pessimistic attitudes.

Our minds can make us sick.  Conversely, learning how to control the ‘monkey mind’ can give us a greater quality of life and better overall health.

Research is proving what most of us know…it is all about attitude.

There is a difference between being an Empath and an HSP (Highly Sensitive Person, see Blog Post June 2015).   The difference between being Clairsentient and being an Empath is a much finer line.

Empaths attract people who are comfortable sharing their life’s drama and trauma with them.  Often stating that they ‘feel much better’ after sharing their story.  However, the Empath often feels drained, depressed and exhausted.

Empaths can literally take on the physical and emotional distress of others without being aware of what is happening.  They are often overwhelmed in crowded places.  Empaths, like Clairsentients, can instantly detect others’ feelings.

Many people with strong intuition are giant psychic sponges; soaking up emotional energy that is not theirs.  For the Empath this experience is greatly heightened. This accumulation of energy often leads to exhaustion, depression, and physical illness.

An Empath cannot change who they are, so their work is to create skills and behaviors that mitigate negative effects.

Setting boundaries with oneself and others is critical to Empathic health.  Don’t allow yourself to be a captive audience to sagas of misfortune and suffering.  This does not mean turning a deaf ear; it does mean setting limits.

Learning techniques for grounding that are appropriate for you.  Meditation, prayer, getting into Nature, an Epsom bath, with the prayerful intention of drawing out accumulated energy.  Earthing. Learn to discern what feelings are yours, and what feelings are not yours.  Taking care of your etheric body.  Finding methods of protection that work for you.  For example, wearing protective crystals.

Once these skills and practices are firmly in place, Empaths and Clairsentients can contribute much to the health and well-being of others and the planet at large.